When I was 19, I looked a little more like 16 or 17, due to my lack of makeup skills. Since I didn't bother with makeup (especially while pregnant and right after baby), and most of my friends look pretty young as well, I was always getting dirty looks during pregnancy! I knew people were upset when they could tell I was pregnant and young. I would even see some ladies talking about my while looking at me in disgust the whole time. This especially happened when I would go shopping in the snoody part of town. If I forgot to where my engagement ring that day, or I was too swollen to put it on, I would often just go somewhere else to shop, or just go home and forget about it. If it looked like the father was not in the picture on top of it, it defeated the fun of even shopping.
I'm sure lots of young mom's experience this, and I want you all to know, that no matter how old you are or what your situation is with the father, you are going to be okay! You are doing a great thing making that baby and as long as you are doing the best you can for your little one, then those judging you should not matter.
Once my little one was born and I would stroll around with him, almost all of the looks disappear. Everybody loves babies! Just know it gets better. People start judging you for different things later on, like if your baby is crying in public, or how your disciplining your kids, or what you're wearing as a mom (because how dare you show off how good you look after having children!). Soon more people will understand that things are not perfect in any family, because there is no perfect. Everybody has a different idea of what they would like there life to be like when they have kids, including age, where they are in their career and relationships, and whatever my idea is, is not perfect for you and vice versa! Although it is tough to be a mom in college, I love being so young, because my body was able to heal faster and I am able to keep up with my baby with lots of energy! There will always be benefits to living your life the way that makes you happiest!
I'm a first time mom at 20--trying to get through life being a mom, wife, student, and employee--here to share my journey and some tips with you!